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Most people define success by their financial status, where they live or what other people are saying about them.
To enjoy a Perfect Life, you need to define what success means, on your own terms.
For example:
I know I am being successful…
…by how many whims I am chasing.
…by how much open space there is in my calendar without worry.
…by how much I am brightening the lives of the people around me and bringing joy to myself.
My definitions of success do not depend on something happening–an “if, when” scenario–or someone else happening–an “if only” plot. I can stop at anytime during the day and decide, am I successful?
The trick is in the phrasing. Most people tend to phrase these in terms of a goal: when I have a net worth of [fill in astronomical number]; when I have found my soul mate; when I have lost [fill in publicly accepted number ] pounds.
Each phrase needs to start with
“I know I am being successful by/when…”
Unless you use this phrase, you have a goal, not a definition of success. They can incorporate a doing–an activity that would make your day–and feeling–how you would feel doing it. It is not a temporary state.
Write your 3 definitions.
Review your definitions and ask yourself:
Is my definition dependent on something happening?
For example: “I know I am being successful when I have $1 million in the bank.”
That’s a goal.
Better to say, “I know I am being successful when money does not dictate my lifestyle choices.”
Does someone else have to do something?
“I know I am being successful when my children are happy and well-adjusted.”
Better to say, “I know I am being successful when I watch my children growing up laughing, and confident.”
Rewrite then until you are happy and they make your heart sing.
Here are some examples to help you get creative with your definitions:
I know I am successful…
…when I am doing work that makes my soul sing “It’s a Beautiful Life”
…when money flows to me in ways that I never imagined so that I never have to say, “I can’t afford that.”
…when I am at peace.
…by how rich my life is without being a consumer.
…when I have thrown away my alarm clock because it is unnecessary.
…when I eat the best foods for me effortlessly and easily because I enjoy them.
…when I keep my body fit as I age.
…when I have a feeling of peace in my heart that I have lived on God’s land, done my best to help and nurture it.
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