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Now that you have your definition of success, you can identify 25 elements that comprise your perfect life. These elements allow you make your success a reality.
These elements include:
- people and how they treat you
- possessions which are perfect
- personal/character traits that you have
- unique/special skills and talents that you have and love
- special events or adventures
- elements of your home or other environments
- special routines and care rituals
- easier ways to live and enjoy life
- lifestyle improvements and components
- feelings and experiences.
These perfect life elements are not a laundry list of to do’s or long standing goals. Rather, your list would include items big or small, which are particularly meaningful and naturally motivating for you.
What would really be perfect? Not just okay, good enough, not pretty good. Most people don’t allow themselves to have the opportunities, relationships, car, house, health that would really be perfect.
Do not include the following types of elements:
- things your should do or have to do
- pipedreams (enjoy the possible instead)
- recycled goals (let them go)
- conditional situations (which depend on others to come true)
- elements that will require more than 2 years to reach
The trick is to have each item be perfect and have each contribute collectively to a perfect life.
For example: A perfect motor home, if you want to live an RVing life, is a Prevost motor home. It’s beautiful, totally functional, awesome and $850,000. The problem? It’s 45 feet long which means that you can’t take it to most national or state parks, where you might like to spend your time while travelling the road. Instead, you would be stuck at RV parks. So, the motor home itself is prefect, but it might not be part of your perfect life, because it conflicts with how you would like to spend your time–camping in national and state parks. So, unless it is part of your perfect life, it’s not perfect in itself.
First
Start by listing who and what is already perfect in your life.
For example:
- the way your wife listens to you
- your king size bed
- how much you love your kids, unconditionally
- your annual adventure vacation
- your talent for colors
- your purple couch
- your unwavering personal integrity
If you are stuck on this, stop and work to develop the skill of gratitude. Fully acknowledge the 5 – 10 key elements of life that matter greatly. Give credit for what you have, not just what you want. Appreciate yourself, even if it is awkward or painful. One of the ways to do this is to strengthen what is already perfect.
Reinforce each of the elements you already have in one of the following ways:
- if it’s a person, tell the person why they are on your list and why. Do something special for this person to “show them” how much they matter as part of your perfect life.
- if it’s a possession, spend some time perfecting it; cleaning it; protecting it; insuring it; honoring it.
- if it’s a feeling/state, look deeper and identify what might upset that state and then build a reserve of that state to insure its continuation
Second
Ask yourself, “What else would be a key element of my perfect life.
For example
- an absence of worry about money
- a totally flexible daily routine
- ample energy throughout the day
- an outlet for my creativity
- fitting easily into my black Donna Karan dress
- sunlight on regular basis, even in winter
- a loving puppy
- owning my own business
- a coach who would challenge me
- waking up happy every single day
Third
Have fun with the elements
- share your perfect life list with people who will play with you
- work with a coach trained in this
- set time goals for each element
- let go of elements that are just not going to happen
- continually experiment until you find the perfect 25 elements
There are four things that each of your perfectly happy life elements need to have
- 6 words or less
- only one adjective allowed, per object
- it needs to have life, like poetry or art
- it is doable in two years or less
You can start with a paragraph describing what is perfect for you. Then, distill it down to a phrase that speaks to you. You will have, in the end, a 25 phrase tone poem that makes you feel alive when you read it everyday.
Your perfectly happy life elements can be seen in your mind and are different from your manifested reality. All of your elements are not in your reality now. If they are, it’s no fun. Some of them need to be there now. If they are not, it’s frustrating. The dynamic between having and creating makes your life delicious.
Write your 25 perfectly happy life elements.
Who would be in your perfect life? What possessions would you have? What personal qualities? What experiences? Include both the elements that you already have which are perfect as well as the elements you don’t yet have but which are possible to have during the next year. No pipedreams, coulds, shoulds, or will-do’s, please.
Review your elements and ask yourself:
1. Does your element have life?
For example, regular global travel with loved ones could be more alive as new passport stamps every year for us.
2. Can you detect a “should”, or a long term goal that needs to be let go?
Financially responsible could become a jar full of fun money too; or finish my Ph.D. could be a career that make my soul sing
3. When you read it, does it make you smile?
Want some inspiration?
A blue house with white trim and sea breezes
A clean well lit space
Two loving arms to hold me
A clear unblemished face
Style that’s always in fashion
Grace in expressing my truth
Time to garden with abandon
And a handy lap top to boot
A year’s worth of living expenses
A portfolio of mid-risk stock
A diamond I paid for by myself
All new underwear and socks
A manicure and pedicure weekly
A regular steam and massage
Weekends spent with the wind in my sails
Dancing with a wrist corsage
More downtime with my daughter
More chances to laugh with friends
Complete overhaul of my Volvo
Enjoying the means to the end
Or
My Home
Scenic views, cozy rooms, all mine
When I’m loving you, I always feel fine
My heart is happy, don’t need a reason
My body is strong in every season
Creating ‘Brand You’ is my claim to fame
Let’s get together and go to the game
The game of soccer is my warrior’s quest
I keep what I love, give away the rest
Bring it to life that’s how I treat learning
For some grand thing I’ll always be yearning
…
To have a perfect life, you need to have a very high desire to live it. If you have a belief that you don’t deserve it or that it is unattainable, the idea of a perfect life may just cause discontent or discordance.
It is possible that there may be an increase in stress during your transition to a perfect life. You are making fundamental changes. You may need to invest in new habits, learn new skills, or evolve new revenue streams…
Getting to perfect may not be easy, but the process will be one that pays off, forever.
Are you ready?
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